Friday, January 19, 2024

I submit as evidence, Your Honor

 Many instances on this mission we question if we've done any good in the world today, or have furthered the Lord's work in any meaningful way. Often, we slog through days of sameness with only a few occasional bursts of novelty.  We would suggest that occasionally the Lord can use us if we will simply show up in the right place at the right time where we're supposed to be. Like at church, for instance. We've concluded it's fulfilling enough for us to be used as a bridge between people who need to meet or simply to pass on information that needs to be shared. We're realizing we are very small cogs in this giant wheel of the Lord's work to gather Zion.

 Exhibit A- Two weeks ago we had 3 visitors, a couple and another brother in our age range show up to the Whitefield Ward for Sacrament Meeting. We invited them all to our apartment afterwards. The couple was touring all of India and other countries before and after. The woman's father was the first Mission President of the New Delhi Mission and additionally, her nephew completed his missionary service here right about the time we arrived here. They were here visiting family and sightseeing. The other brother was native born in Bangalore, immigrated to Ottawa, Canada with his parents when he was a young boy, joined the church there and was now back visiting his extended family and checking on some medical arrangements. Both parties mentioned they were feeling a strange pull that they should come back to India to serve missions here in the future. How glad we were to give them all a tour of the mission office, the couples' apartment, with the best view of the temple construction, and to invite them to sit in on the upcoming Mission Conference. Had it not been Fast Sunday, we would've loved to have included them in a meal. A soft couch and friendly conversation was all we could offer. 

Brother DeSouza's ancestors came from Portugal to India and originally settled in Goa. 

Brother and Sister Haddon are from our old stomping grounds- Idaho Falls

They both came on different days to the mission conference to see the training in action and were able to meet President Bushi and the current serving missionaries. With 2 of the 3 of them having family ties in India, is it possible they might obtain visas easier than the average American or Canadian, eh? You just never know where this one will lead. 

The following Sunday we attended the Indiranagar Ward and "little did we know" we'd meet up with Brother Desouza once again.
      ( Sorry private joke. You had to be there)
                  I'll let you caption this photo

It's really a joy to meet the Saints wherever we go in India, or in the entire world for that matter, and feel the instant bond with them and the same Holy Spirit in our meetings. 
This bright young woman is Naina and she was teaching the Relief Society lesson this week. 
                    Elder Massey in action.

The following day, even though it was a working day in the office, Brother Desouza invited us to eat Thali with him, a cuisine similar to what we had eaten once at a wedding, with lots of little side dish mix-ins to your rice. He brought with him Brother Anthony, a member of the Indiranagar Ward we hadn't met the day before. We were completely OK to take time off from our jobs to eat! 
      The place mat is a large banana tree leaf

Our conversation centered on answering his specific questions about serving a mission in India. Though we're not the ultimate experts, we shared with him our preparations and current experiences, hoping it strengthened his desire to someday serve with his wife in the future. Brother Anthony was a returned missionary so he was able to contribute much to the conversation. We had a wonderful visit together. We found we're all connected in the church network with many similar friends. Since I wasn't familiar with the area at all, I asked Bro. Anthony if there were any nearby cemeteries. In fact, there was one in walking distance from the restaurant! What a blessing for me and the work I've felt compelled to do in my spare time! So Elder Dunlap scurried back to the office to do his essential work but I took the blessed opportunity to walk with these two brothers where we found a good size cemetery where I could take photos of gravestones. They were so patient to wait while I scurried down the rows snapping pics and what's more, they provided me an auto ride back to a nearby  metro station to get me back to my own area. 

But now my story turns bleak. Once home, I tried to upload my 250 pictures onto BillionGraves. In the past, the photos I took were immediately assigned a location, this time it kept showing them located in an undefined cemetery and so the upload circle just spun and spun eternally. No!!  All this divine provision for naught? This just can't be! I got on the BG website but found you need to be a paid member, not just a volunteer, to create a ticket to get any help with technical issues. So I was pretty bummed how this episode ended. I kept checking back over the next couple of days to see if it would somehow start uploading the photos with prayers and pleadings, pressing harder the same buttons as I had before. I looked countless times at the map on the app and tried to find where we had walked and what the name of the cemetery might be. It was really hard to tell. When you zoomed out there were literally dozens of them. I took an educated guess, we did drive on Old Madras Rd. Could it maybe be Lakshmipuram Graveyard? So I pressed on it's icon. It said something like "This is not your current location". Darn tootin'.  But suddenly something clicked and voila, it connected all my photos with that location and they instantly started uploading. 
Action shot of the photos uploading. This is exciting stuff, no?! I still don't know how to take screen shots but because I own 3 phones, I can at least take a picture of this phone with another one. 

I was overjoyed that my work wasn't halted. I now know how to get to this new graveyard and back on the metro on my own and I can stay as long as I want to or until I get fatigued. So eagerly I went again this week. I got lots of stares on the Metro and while walking the streets as an independent foreigner but I'm glad to report I got 347 more photos, including this one:
  Don't you dare laugh. He's somebody's relative 

Dass is a common name here, we knew a Brother Dass down in Coimbatore. Initials are the first letter of their Father's first name and constitute their family last name. So this is totally legit! But discovering this one man kept me smiling the whole time as I worked. This Exhibit B experience showed me that the Lord is very willing to help me help the Indian people find their ancestors, through small miracles and fortuitous meetings. 

Exhibit C was all about getting 7 of our missionaries in their various areas back to Bengalore so they could fly internationally to Bangkok to receive their temple endowments. Right now there is no charge for a visa to Thailand so there is a huge push to get every Indian missionary and as many saints as possible to the temple in this window. I felt the urgency. But continual glitches on airline websites caused me to throw my arms up in constant exasperation. I am so easily frustrated by technological issues. But I knew I couldn't let Satan have the win so I just kept trying again. We ended up bringing some missionaries by train and come to find out later the credit card company charged us twice even when it said "transaction failed".  Grrr. This wasn't the worst part. Poor darling sweet Elder Karra got all the way to the airport and couldn't board the flight due to some technicality in his ticket. I was only slightly relieved it wasn't my error, someone else is responsible for booking the international flights, otherwise I don't think I could've lived with myself. So he had to stay behind with our local elders while the rest of the group left on their way. This was around midnight. I can only imagine if that would've been me how devastated and alone I would've felt. But he took it in stride. Earlier that day I had the sweetest experience with him. While 3 of the other elders opted to take a nap, he offered to help me make cookies for all the departing missionaries. He said he'd never made cookies before so he was a most eager student. 
                 Look at me, I'm making cookies! 
                Look at the the delight on his face!

Gratefully, its only a slight delay for him and he'll get to go with the next batch in a few weeks but bless his heart. The rest of the group got there safely and Elder and Sister Robinaugh were there in Bangkok to receive them and guide them to Patron Housing, to the temple, and to restaurants to eat. Eat up Elder Gudla!
A newly married couple on the right and their parents on the left acted as travel chaperones for the group.
It's been confirmed. Indians do not dig Thai food.

So it's gratifying to see these photos and to have even a small part in getting them there to receive those eternal blessings they'll gain from making sacred covenants with God. That's enough. 

 Exhibit D is my final submission to the members of the jury and judge. It's best told in screenshots. I didn't even know how to take one when I started this. Teaching an old dog a new trick is painstaking, it just kept turning down my volume while simultaneously shutting down the phone. But with the elders exhibiting the patience of Job via WhatsApp, they taught me how and I finally got the hang of the quick click! 
The condensed background expository of this incident is that I got an email sent to the mission from a virtual stranger, a Sister Sheen from  Clinton, Utah. 

Well, that's all the evidence we can muster up this week, including a bit of last week. It feels like relatively little to us but along with Elder Dunlap's daily grind of processing bills and payments and reimbursements, we hope we are helping the Lord's work going forward, if only in very small and unassuming ways.
 
" And it came to pass that they did go forth, and did minister unto the people, declaring throughout all the regions round about (Bengaluru, Indiranagar, the Blogosphere) all the things which they had heard and seen, insomuch that the more part of the "Lamanites" (Indians and whomever) were convinced of them, because of the greatness (?) of the evidences which they had received. 

Helaman 5:50



 

Saturday, January 13, 2024

Meet the Family

 Whenever we get to be with our missionaries, it's like a family reunion! January 9th-11th, we gathered all 35 of them (not counting the 6 Sri Lankans) to our mission headquarters in Bengaluru for a 3-day Conference. 

      Small in #s (and stature) but giants in faith

It was all you could hope for in a gathering- spiritually inspiring, behaviorally motivating, socially satisfying, topped with an all-you-can-eat Southern Indian Food Frenzy for 3 meals a day. What can I say more?  Biriyani reigned supreme! 

                             Carbfest 2024

Words fail to capture the full experience, maybe the photojournalism will aid, but suffice it to say we were fueled and fed in every possible way. We love our little band of warriors so so much! Perhaps it's because Rob and I have no children together that we have adopted these missionaries as our collective children. We have yours and mine but now we have Ours. And maybe because I have no sons of my own, I especially feel this motherly bond with these righteous young men. Although we enjoy them collectively, it's the one on one conversations  and friendships with them that stand out after it was all over. We even had the joy of having two of them stay with us at our apartment for the 3-day event. Even with all the food provided, they still had room for more!
                 Elders Harmon and Rejendra-
                         The bottomless pits 

For the bulk of it, we held the devotionals and trainings in the Whitefield Ward Building. 
          Former Coimbatore Stripling Warriors, 
                          Bora & Koonisetti
                    The 3 Nepalese Amigos
               Capturing their brotherly bond
   Elders Nepali and Benson- Go Abish!
          Favorite Newbies Andrew and Willis
             The Mc-APs McSwain and Macdonald
                       and the entire IBM 
                               The Seesters 
         Elders Rajput, Gudla, Awesomesetti
                  Elders Karmegam and Meruga
                           Cook and Weight- 
            The anticipation before a meal?
                  Or the inevitable result?
                 Elders Prabhas and Andrew

The 2nd Day of the conference, we took a half- day break for a morning excursion to Nandi Hill. Ah, what memories it evoked of past Zone outings! The PBN Breakfast of Champions (Peanut Butter and Nutella on white bread), the bus rides, the hiking, the photo ops. I'm including all their names here for my own sake. 30 years later, I look at my photos from Korea and the names are gone. You think you'll remember everyone at the time but we know from sad experience memories fade unless we preserve them.
   Polupalli & Meruga (Did I capture something  here?) Probably not but time after will tell. 
                Love thy neighbor as thy Selfie
                           We come in peace 
                     Heimlich maneuver hugs?
                 Vermin and Portapotty (jk)
Koolcats Prabhas Gudla Sondi Injeti Koonisetti
         Willis, Nepali squared, Benson, Andrew
                  Made ya look, Sister Bushi
Adhikari and Patta in rear, Abish blazing ahead
         Kaithwas, Johnson, del Plain, Harmon
          Karmegam Sandwich on white bread
  Elder Macdonald deciphering between 
glyph and graffiti 
I spent the most one-on-one time during meals with Elder Massey. What a friend he is to me. He has made huge strides in his English and in his confidence, his humility, and overall personal growth. It was gratifying to see the patience and love his two companions had for him. He is loved by us all.
           My (t)rusty companion, Elder Dunlap
   Is that your hair on top or just a wispy cloud?
 Is that my crazy hair standing on end or a tree?  Well, both.
I was told to be careful, these monkeys would steal your glasses but this one was wary of me. 

Our last venue of the conference was at the mission home where we ate still more biriyani but also got very close and cozy. It was very special and poignant because we shared our mission miracles and dear Elder Adhikari said his final farewells. He loves the gospels and and all the peoples and the childrens. 
              We will miss his Adhikari-isms 
  We were feeling the Kumbaya love singing 'round the figurative campfire
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   We adore off-key singing now, it's our favorite 

So here's the crux of it. The reason why we are so bonded to these young people and why they feel like family to us is because of our shared faith in Jesus Christ that we so openly express with each other. These testimonies are personal and are the deepest feelings of our hearts. They often bring tears to our eyes and lumps to our throats. When these young missionaries bear testimony, we know through the Holy Spirit exactly how they are feeling and the Spirit also fills in every gap that can't be said in words but we get it, we know what they are trying to say in their version of our language and we feel that "whatever they say" to be true too. We love hearing "each and every one" of their testimonies of Jesus Christ and the restoration of His Church through the prophet Joseph Smith. We were so touched by Elder Kaithwas and Elder Rajput. These young Indians were raised Hindu with such different beliefs and deities but when they heard the message of Jesus Christ and read the Book of Mormon and felt the truth in their hearts, they radically changed their whole way of thinking and life paradigm. Not only that, they were then willing to sacrifice two years of their life to teach others about it. And then all of the many Indian pioneers who were the first and only in their families to experience conversion, like Elder Vasamsetti. And then the rebellious ones, like Elder Benson who listened to the Spirit that told him he needed to repent and serve a mission. And the stubborn ones like Sister Mani that didn't want to serve a mission but who softened her heart and then saw everything fall into place. And then the pure and simple testimonies like Elder Massey's who spoke of the Lord's tender mercies and enabling power in his simple elementary English. And then to watch his companion Elder Johnson help him find the words and put his arm around him to encourage him.  And then the powerful testimonies of Elder Willis and Elder Guntu and Elder Nepali, where you see a vision open before your eyes of a future leader in the church. And Elder Gudla tell how the Lord helped him gain 5gs so he could qualify to serve and have sustained health. And Elder Patta tell of giving up his movie dance career to serve a mission. And every single one of the others. We add our testimony to theirs. We know there is a God in heaven who loves us! He sent his Son to save us from sin and death and to give us the abundant life now and forever! He is our Savior and Redeemer. This is His church and it is led by His power and authority and we are giving all our energy and wearing out our bodies here to declare it to anyone who's hearts are humble enough to listen and accept the truth we bear. And we are so blessed because of it. This is our collective testimony!

"Therefore, that we should waste and wear out our lives in bringing to light all the hidden things....wherein we know them; and they are truly manifest from heaven. Therefore dearly beloved brethren, let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power; and then may we stand still, with the upmost assurance, to see the salvation of God, and for his arm to be revealed."

Doctrine and Covenants 123: 13, 17






Saturday, January 6, 2024

What's in store in '24?

 

  2 month-old Luke tooting his own horn

2024 is only a week upon us and all signs say it's going to be a doozy! As you may remember from last week, our good friends KT and Mani were staying with us over the weekend to ring in the new year together. KT has lived in India for several years now so this uneven terrain isn't new territory for her, so it took us all by surprise as we were walking to church on New Years Eve morn, that she took a fall. Being young and nimble, she fell pretty gracefully, bounced right back up with just a small scrape on her hand and kept right on walking! Oh to be young again! In the same treacherous place on the way home, Mani got his foot tangled in some debris and nearly biffed it too! Luckily, he caught himself before falling and so we all just laughed it off. You can't bring us down! In our high spirits, we intended to walk down to the community festivities later in the evening but when night came, KT's ankle really started throbbing with pain when she put weight on it. So much for taking a casual stroll through our community and joining in a bit. So much for bouncing right back and having immunity from hardship. Well, call it luck or divine Providence, the couple before us had left some crutches behind in our apartment for such a time as this. 

                       The Lord doth provide!

Instead of joining in the community revelry, we stayed in and watched "Ephraim's Rescue" which tells the harrowing story of the handcart pioneers caught on the Mormon trail in an early Winter. As we watched their suffering, we counted our blessings. The next morning her pain was gone and her ankle felt good as new. Let's just call it a miracle! One day into it and it's already a year of hard times and miracles. 

Tuesday, the following day, my new friend Sister Reji had invited me to come with her to visit her husband's grave. Two years ago, she and her family had just finished their happy Christmas and New Year's celebration when her beloved husband collapsed and died suddenly. I considered it an honor she would want me to come with her to observe the anniversary of his death. She arranged a driver to take us across town to the Indian Christian Cemetery, the oldest and largest in the city of Bengaluru. We had a lovely visit as she shared many memories of him. He had been a professor of sociology at Christ University and was deeply loved and respected by all who knew him. I started to feel like I knew him too. And loved him as well.

                  Snapped from the car window

She told me of their unique conversion to the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. They were both Christians at the time living in Kerala and had a chance encounter with some nuns while hiking who told them quite out of the blue they needed to receive baptism, which their current church didn't say they needed. A seed was planted in their hearts at that time. Later when they had moved to Bengaluru for his new job, some LDS missionaries came to their home with a tract. They asked the missionaries if the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints baptized their members. That question led them and their two young daughters to study with the missionaries and eventually receive the baptism they knew they were lacking. They had always had an issue with infant baptism and when they read in the Book of Mormon that the Lord proclaims that all children are innocent and alive in Christ and have no need of baptism til they are at an age of accountability, that too solidified their newfound testimonies in this incredible book of scripture and in the prophet Joseph Smith. They already had faith in Jesus Christ, this just added a new dimension to it. I loved hearing her testimony as we drove to the gravesite. 

            Her beloved husband -Dr. Shaji Issac

She shared another incident of how her husband came to their Hindu friend after his death in a dream to tell him the scripture he wanted on his epitaph-Psalms 128:1-3 and his wish to find a frame that had a vine growing around it to accompany his photo. She absolutely knew that this was his favorite scripture but was also positive this friend wouldn't have known that, so his visit from the other side of the veil from her husband has strengthened her tremendously through her loss. And sure enough, with a bit of searching, they found the perfect picture frame he had described to his friend. Her assurance of their eternal temple marriage and his continued watchful care has allowed Sister Reji to move on with her life joyfully. I felt so bonded to Sister Reji for sharing these sacred experiences with me. While she was talking to her daughters (one that lives in Utah!) I took the chance to snap some photos of nearby graves for @Billiongraves.com. When I saw that this cemetery went on for blocks and blocks, I truly wished that there was more time and 10,000 more of me. Any Indian saints reading this, please know that the names of ancestors are what nourishes a temple. If you want to hasten the temple construction, get their names ready! Do your family history! Exaltation is a family matter.

After our morning together, I knew I had to get into the office to do some needed work so we told KT and Mani they could play pool at the office while we worked before they had to catch their train. Yeah. I know. Nothing says "Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints" than having a pool table in the front window of your office, right? What can we say, it came with the rental space.
Trouble with a Capital T and that rhymes with P and that stands for POOL! 

No sooner had they left for Coimbatore, I started sneezing and feeling very feverish. Sure enough, I was stricken with a doozy of a flu bug for the second time during our mission. (The first was in the MTC) It was truly horrible. Both Tuesday and Wednesday nights, I asked Rob for Priesthood blessings to petition the Lord to help me to sleep and to be able to breathe through my nose. I can't sleep and mouth breathe, it just doesn't work for me!  I also said many prayers that Sister Reji and our Coimbi friends who we'd been in close contact with for 5 days, not to mention the missionaries and employees at the office, would not experience what I was going through. So far no reports of illness. I woke up Friday the 3rd day, feeling surprisingly well enough to resume my duties. I consider it a great miracle that for something that came on so strong and debilitating, to be over so quickly. So thank you family and friends, for your continued prayers for us. You didn't even know how much we we needed them. Combined with our faith in the power of priesthood blessings through Jesus Christ, our Great Physician, we are up and running again in this new year! There's no substitutes to cover for us, so I believe the Lord wants to keep his work going here, especially with the skeleton crew he's got to work with. 

Since sick leave isn't the most exciting subject to belabor, I'll close this week with the latest pictures of our kids, our adorable grandsons and our two YA friends, Akash and Rithi who really are living the dream of starting at BYUHawaii for college this next week. We are invested in all of their futures! 
           Silas' newest achievement- sitting up!
       Akash, already reaching great heights
 
And who can top this? Rithi is in paradise! United with her love she met at a young adult conference before her mission, they wasted no time upon their reunion in Hawaii. They are already engaged!! 

  The Kunzler Family, wishing you a happy 2024! 

"I will ease the burdens which are put upon your shoulders that even you cannot feel them upon your backs..and this will I do that ye may stand as witnesses for me hereafter...that I the Lord do visit my people in their afflictions".

Mosiah 24:14


  

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